The Pros and Cons of Going Back To Work…
Today I went on a job interview. Professional clothing, make-up, hair down and a printed resume at the ready! It’s a part time job. It’s perfect hours for a mom with kids in school. It pays well and it lines up nicely with my skill set.
But I have mom.
My husband is home many of the days and times I would be at work. I have a neighbor who has offered to help on the rare day when neither of us would be home. And did I mention, it pays?!
But I have mom.
Family is more important than competitive dance…unless you are a 12-year-old girl who LOVES to dance with every tapping, pointing, leaping fiber of her being. Family is more important than select baseball…unless you are a 15-year-old boy who would rather put on a pair of cleats and catcher’s gear and squat behind home plate in 105 degree weather than anything else you could imagine. Family is more important than being cool at night and having meat on the menu and going to the dentist an extra time each year….
Money is tight when you give up working to care for someone. And there are only so many corners you can cut. And no matter how many e-mails you send to find some at-home writing work, these days it’s all about who you know to even get a response!
And I have mom.
There were 25 wonderful women who applied for this position. This part-time position. And I would be so arrogant to think I would be selected out of the 25. But what if I am?
Which leads me to today’s Alzheimer’s Top 10: The Pros & Cons of Going Back To Work
- A much-needed weekly paycheck
- Interaction with fully functioning adults on a daily basis
- Maintaining my professional skills so I can re-enter the work force once caregiving ends
- Getting out of the house 5 days a week
- Being able to ‘splurge’ a little again
- Not having to dip into savings for car/home/mom unexpected expenses
- Having 5 more traditional/normal/non-caregiving hours in my day
- It’s a good employer to work for
- Other than working from home – these are the best hours I could hope for
- Sharing the caregiving work load with my family (they want to help me)
- Mom’s anxiety when I am not around
- My anxiety and worry when I am not around
- Trying to accomplish everything on top of working outside the home for 25 hours/week
- Inability to be able to respond at the drop of a hat to kid and mom emergencies
- Dressing up every single day again (I do NOT miss that!)
- Having to possibly hire someone to watch mom 2 days per week (since my neighbor is kind, but not crazy!)
- Taking the job and finding out I can’t manage it
- The unpredictability of my husband’s schedule
- The worry that no one will be as patient with mom as I am
- Sharing the caregiving workload with my family (will they resent me…and mom)
And there it is…I’ve typed it and I didn’t learn anything new from either list. I know the pros and the cons. I know why I should and why I shouldn’t…I’ve spent time in prayer. I feel certain the answer will present itself or at least a sign to point me in the right direction… I sure hope so!
Any advice out there???